“How Do I Find My Value?”Questions for Reflection 1. What do psychologists say is proof of human beings' inborn value?
2. What is "objective worth"?
3. What is the best way to feel your own value?
4. In the movies The Third Man and Schindler’s List, what material thing do the men compare human value to?
5. Can human value be compared to this material thing? Why or why not?
6. Describe a book you read or a movie you saw where one of the main characters placed a high value on human life.
7. Who are the top five people you know who genuinely think of others before they think of themselves?
8. Do you think Mother Teresa was foolish to spend her time caring for dying people?
9. What did Mother Teresa want the Nobel Prize committee to do with the prize and banquet money they wanted to give to her?
“Who Am I?”Questions for Reflection
1. What are your character strengths?
2. What are your character weaknesses?
3. Do you generally see other people in a good or bad light?
4. What makes you work harder?
5. How do you relate to your friends and family?
8. What were you thinking this morning when you woke up?
9. Think of yourself as being 30 years old. What kind of a person are you? What work do you do? What personal relationships do you have? Where do you live?
10. Overall, do you see yourself in a good or bad light?
“Am I My Own Boss?”Questions for Reflection
1. After reading the statements in the text by parents and children, with which side do you agree?
2. With which statements do you particularly agree?
3. With which ones do you strongly disagree? Why?
4. What do you think are the main reasons for disagreements between teenage children and their parents?
5. What is the mark of true adulthood?
6. Do you feel your parents treat you with dignity and respect?
7. Do you treat your parents with dignity and respect?
8. In what ways could you act more maturely so that your parents would treat you more as an adult?
9. What could your parents do to make you feel more like an adult?
“Resolving Inner Conflict”Questions for Reflection
1. In the story of the two monks, why did the younger monk accuse the older one? What does his accusation say about him?
2. What is the root cause of inner conflict?
3. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between two goods?
4. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between two evils?
5. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between our selfish and our unselfish natures?
6. Think of a time when you hurt someone. How could you have applied the five points in the text to that situation?
7. Think of a time when someone hurt you. How could you have applied the six points in the text to that situation?
8. Were you ever able to forgive someone who hurt you? Write about it.
9. Do you still hold grudges against someone who hurt you in the past? Who and why?
10. Why is it difficult for us to apologize when we do something wrong?
“Respect in Relationships”Questions for Reflection
1. What are ways of showing respect for ourselves?
2. What are ways of showing respect for others?
3. What is the relationship between respect and love?
4. Why do you think people so often show disrespect for one another?
5. How can you show respect to those with whom you disagree?
6. Even if you know you are right and the other person is wrong, how would you show respect towards this person?
7. What does a person have to do to gain your respect?
8. How should you act if you want others to respect you?
9. How do you feel when someone you care about does something to lose your respect for him/her?
“True Love—The Greatest Value”Questions for Reflection 1. The title of this lesson is “True Love—The Greatest Value.” Do you think that love is the most important thing in life?
2. How would you define love?
3. Is love just a feeling—or something more?
4. What are the characteristics of love?
5. Explain the difference between conditional and unconditional love.
6. In what situations would conditional love be beneficial?
7. In what situations would conditional love be harmful?
8. Why does love sometimes bring pain and sorrow?
9. What is the difference between true love and false love?
10. Why does it seem to be so difficult to practice true love?
“Friendship”Questions for Reflection 1. What were your first childhood friendships like?
2. How are your current friendships like those childhood friendships?
3. What kind of friends would you like to have?
4. Do you feel good enough to have friends? Why or why not?
5. What do you fear most when it comes to making friends or having friendships?
6. What do you expect of your friends?
7. What do you give to your friends?
8. How can you be a better friend?
9. Are you someone's best friend?
“How We Relate”Questions for Reflection
1. Explain the characteristics of a vertical relationship.
2. Explain the characteristics of a horizontal relationship.
3. In what ways are they different?
4. Why do you think we tend to avoid certain kinds of people?
5. What kinds of people do you avoid?
6. What kinds of people are you drawn to?
7. What does the phrase “I never met a man I didn’t like” mean?
8. Should we trust our first impressions of people?
9. Is there someone you know who you did not like at first but, as you got to know him or her, you eventually became friends?
“Communication Skills”Questions for Reflection
1. What is an “I-message” as opposed to a “you-message”?
2. What are the 3 steps in an “I-message”?
3. How good are you at resolving problems and conflicts?
4. How much effort do you make to prevent them from happening in the first place?
5. How well are you able to understand your parents’ point of view in a conflict situation?
6. How well do you think they understand your point of view?
7. Name and explain the 3 levels of listening.
8. Do your parents ever make fun of or reject your feelings? If so, how do you react?
“What Do Parents Really Think?”Questions for Reflection
1. Do you feel your parents generally understand and support you?
2. Do you feel you are reasonable and mature in the way you treat your parents?
3. How would you define the generation gap?
4. When a conflict arises in your home, do you try to see the situation from your parents' point of view?
5. Do you feel that you understand your parents and their concerns?
6. Do you think perhaps your parents may see problems where you do not?
7. What do you think of the comments made by the parents in this chapter?
8. Which do you agree with? Which don't you agree with? Why?
“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”Questions for Reflection
1. Why do you think conflicts between people arise in the first place?
2. Is it easy to tell who is at fault? How do we do this?
3. What is the way to resolve conflicts?
4. Give some examples of conflicts that have and have not been resolved.
5. Why have some conflicts been resolved and others not?
6. Is it difficult to really forgive someone? Give an example.
7. Have you ever been forgiven for a wrongful act? How did it feel?
8. How is loving your enemy related to forgiveness?
9. Is there a conflict in your life you would like to resolve? How could you do it?
“Human Sexuality and Integrity”Questions for Reflection
1. What is the difference between sex and love? In what ways might they be the same?
2. What is the difference between animal and human sexuality?
3. How would you describe sexual maturity?
4. If you were a parent, how would you talk to your teenage child about the issue of sexuality and sexual desire?
5. How would you describe the spiritual, mental, emotional and moral aspects of human sexuality?
6. Discuss freedom and responsibility in relation to sexuality.
7. Compare mature with immature sexual behavior.
8. Is sex a need or a desire?
9. Is love a need or a desire?
10. With respect to sexuality, how can a person determine if the mind or the body is in control?
“The Challenge of Purity”Questions for Reflection
1. What is purity?
2. Why can we say that purity brings freedom? What kind of freedom is it?
3. What are some of the other benefits of purity?
4. What are some of the ways to stay pure?
5. How can premarital sex get in the way of learning about true love?
6. How can we develop a pure mind? Clean speech? Virtuous action?
7. What is renewed purity?
8. Is sex okay if you think you really love the other person but are still not married?
9. What are some of the dangers of engaging in a sexual relationship outside of marriage?
10. How might your choice either to be pure or to engage in pre-marital sex influence other parts of your life?
“Falling in Love, Friendship, and Real Love”Questions for Reflection
1. What is the difference between falling in love, friendship and real love?
2. How does parent's love compare to a teenage love relationship? Which is deeper?
3. Have you ever been disappointed by a love relationship? What happened?
4. How would you rate your ability to love others?
5. Why are people often fooled by feelings of love?
6. What does love involve besides feelings?
7. How would you know if you really loved someone?
8. What is premature bonding?
“Broken Relationships”Questions for Reflection
1. What relationship in your life has broken apart?
2. Briefly describe what happened.
3. What are your feelings about the break up of this relationship right now?
4. Is there anything you would do differently in regard to this relationship if you could do things over again?
5. What have you done to allow yourself to grieve over this relationship?
“Preparation for Marriage”Questions for Reflection
1. What are your expectations for marriage?
2. Are there ways that you are preparing for your own future marriage?
3. What are some of the common mistaken ideas about marriage?
4. Knowing yourself, what kinds of problems do you think might arise in your own future marriage?
5. What kind of life would a married couple live if they did live “happily ever after”? Is this realistic?
6. How old do you think a person should be before he/she gets married?
7. What personal qualities do you think a person should have before they consider getting married?
8. Do you think if two people love each other that their difficulties will automatically work out? Explain.
9. What advice would you give to someone who was just about to marry?
“The Family as a School of Love”Questions for Reflection
1. What are the values most strongly stressed in your family?
2. Can you remember any events that made you realize the importance of these values?
3. Do you think that these values are similar to those of other families?
4. Which values do you consider most important?
5. How do you think things have changed compared to your parents’ and grandparents’ childhoods?
6. What does your family like to do together?
7. What does your family quarrel about the most?
8. What are the four realms of heart?
9. How are these four realms of heart shown in your family?
1. What do psychologists say is proof of human beings' inborn value?
2. What is "objective worth"?
3. What is the best way to feel your own value?
4. In the movies The Third Man and Schindler’s List, what material thing do the men compare human value to?
5. Can human value be compared to this material thing? Why or why not?
6. Describe a book you read or a movie you saw where one of the main characters placed a high value on human life.
7. Who are the top five people you know who genuinely think of others before they think of themselves?
8. Do you think Mother Teresa was foolish to spend her time caring for dying people?
9. What did Mother Teresa want the Nobel Prize committee to do with the prize and banquet money they wanted to give to her?
“Who Am I?”Questions for Reflection
1. What are your character strengths?
2. What are your character weaknesses?
3. Do you generally see other people in a good or bad light?
4. What makes you work harder?
5. How do you relate to your friends and family?
8. What were you thinking this morning when you woke up?
9. Think of yourself as being 30 years old. What kind of a person are you? What work do you do? What personal relationships do you have? Where do you live?
10. Overall, do you see yourself in a good or bad light?
“Am I My Own Boss?”Questions for Reflection
1. After reading the statements in the text by parents and children, with which side do you agree?
2. With which statements do you particularly agree?
3. With which ones do you strongly disagree? Why?
4. What do you think are the main reasons for disagreements between teenage children and their parents?
5. What is the mark of true adulthood?
6. Do you feel your parents treat you with dignity and respect?
7. Do you treat your parents with dignity and respect?
8. In what ways could you act more maturely so that your parents would treat you more as an adult?
9. What could your parents do to make you feel more like an adult?
“Resolving Inner Conflict”Questions for Reflection
1. In the story of the two monks, why did the younger monk accuse the older one? What does his accusation say about him?
2. What is the root cause of inner conflict?
3. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between two goods?
4. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between two evils?
5. How can we resolve inner conflict when we struggle with a choice between our selfish and our unselfish natures?
6. Think of a time when you hurt someone. How could you have applied the five points in the text to that situation?
7. Think of a time when someone hurt you. How could you have applied the six points in the text to that situation?
8. Were you ever able to forgive someone who hurt you? Write about it.
9. Do you still hold grudges against someone who hurt you in the past? Who and why?
10. Why is it difficult for us to apologize when we do something wrong?
“Respect in Relationships”Questions for Reflection
1. What are ways of showing respect for ourselves?
2. What are ways of showing respect for others?
3. What is the relationship between respect and love?
4. Why do you think people so often show disrespect for one another?
5. How can you show respect to those with whom you disagree?
6. Even if you know you are right and the other person is wrong, how would you show respect towards this person?
7. What does a person have to do to gain your respect?
8. How should you act if you want others to respect you?
9. How do you feel when someone you care about does something to lose your respect for him/her?
“True Love—The Greatest Value”Questions for Reflection
1. The title of this lesson is “True Love—The Greatest Value.” Do you think that love is the most important thing in life?
2. How would you define love?
3. Is love just a feeling—or something more?
4. What are the characteristics of love?
5. Explain the difference between conditional and unconditional love.
6. In what situations would conditional love be beneficial?
7. In what situations would conditional love be harmful?
8. Why does love sometimes bring pain and sorrow?
9. What is the difference between true love and false love?
10. Why does it seem to be so difficult to practice true love?
“Friendship”Questions for Reflection
1. What were your first childhood friendships like?
2. How are your current friendships like those childhood friendships?
3. What kind of friends would you like to have?
4. Do you feel good enough to have friends? Why or why not?
5. What do you fear most when it comes to making friends or having friendships?
6. What do you expect of your friends?
7. What do you give to your friends?
8. How can you be a better friend?
9. Are you someone's best friend?
“How We Relate”Questions for Reflection
1. Explain the characteristics of a vertical relationship.
2. Explain the characteristics of a horizontal relationship.
3. In what ways are they different?
4. Why do you think we tend to avoid certain kinds of people?
5. What kinds of people do you avoid?
6. What kinds of people are you drawn to?
7. What does the phrase “I never met a man I didn’t like” mean?
8. Should we trust our first impressions of people?
9. Is there someone you know who you did not like at first but, as you got to know him or her, you eventually became friends?
“Communication Skills”Questions for Reflection
1. What is an “I-message” as opposed to a “you-message”?
2. What are the 3 steps in an “I-message”?
3. How good are you at resolving problems and conflicts?
4. How much effort do you make to prevent them from happening in the first place?
5. How well are you able to understand your parents’ point of view in a conflict situation?
6. How well do you think they understand your point of view?
7. Name and explain the 3 levels of listening.
8. Do your parents ever make fun of or reject your feelings? If so, how do you react?
“What Do Parents Really Think?”Questions for Reflection
1. Do you feel your parents generally understand and support you?
2. Do you feel you are reasonable and mature in the way you treat your parents?
3. How would you define the generation gap?
4. When a conflict arises in your home, do you try to see the situation from your parents' point of view?
5. Do you feel that you understand your parents and their concerns?
6. Do you think perhaps your parents may see problems where you do not?
7. What do you think of the comments made by the parents in this chapter?
8. Which do you agree with? Which don't you agree with? Why?
“Resolving Conflict and Forgiveness”Questions for Reflection
1. Why do you think conflicts between people arise in the first place?
2. Is it easy to tell who is at fault? How do we do this?
3. What is the way to resolve conflicts?
4. Give some examples of conflicts that have and have not been resolved.
5. Why have some conflicts been resolved and others not?
6. Is it difficult to really forgive someone? Give an example.
7. Have you ever been forgiven for a wrongful act? How did it feel?
8. How is loving your enemy related to forgiveness?
9. Is there a conflict in your life you would like to resolve? How could you do it?
“Human Sexuality and Integrity”Questions for Reflection
1. What is the difference between sex and love? In what ways might they be the same?
2. What is the difference between animal and human sexuality?
3. How would you describe sexual maturity?
4. If you were a parent, how would you talk to your teenage child about the issue of sexuality and sexual desire?
5. How would you describe the spiritual, mental, emotional and moral aspects of human sexuality?
6. Discuss freedom and responsibility in relation to sexuality.
7. Compare mature with immature sexual behavior.
8. Is sex a need or a desire?
9. Is love a need or a desire?
10. With respect to sexuality, how can a person determine if the mind or the body is in control?
“The Challenge of Purity”Questions for Reflection
1. What is purity?
2. Why can we say that purity brings freedom? What kind of freedom is it?
3. What are some of the other benefits of purity?
4. What are some of the ways to stay pure?
5. How can premarital sex get in the way of learning about true love?
6. How can we develop a pure mind? Clean speech? Virtuous action?
7. What is renewed purity?
8. Is sex okay if you think you really love the other person but are still not married?
9. What are some of the dangers of engaging in a sexual relationship outside of marriage?
10. How might your choice either to be pure or to engage in pre-marital sex influence other parts of your life?
“Falling in Love, Friendship, and Real Love”Questions for Reflection
1. What is the difference between falling in love, friendship and real love?
2. How does parent's love compare to a teenage love relationship? Which is deeper?
3. Have you ever been disappointed by a love relationship? What happened?
4. How would you rate your ability to love others?
5. Why are people often fooled by feelings of love?
6. What does love involve besides feelings?
7. How would you know if you really loved someone?
8. What is premature bonding?
“Broken Relationships”Questions for Reflection
1. What relationship in your life has broken apart?
2. Briefly describe what happened.
3. What are your feelings about the break up of this relationship right now?
4. Is there anything you would do differently in regard to this relationship if you could do things over again?
5. What have you done to allow yourself to grieve over this relationship?
“Preparation for Marriage”Questions for Reflection
1. What are your expectations for marriage?
2. Are there ways that you are preparing for your own future marriage?
3. What are some of the common mistaken ideas about marriage?
4. Knowing yourself, what kinds of problems do you think might arise in your own future marriage?
5. What kind of life would a married couple live if they did live “happily ever after”? Is this realistic?
6. How old do you think a person should be before he/she gets married?
7. What personal qualities do you think a person should have before they consider getting married?
8. Do you think if two people love each other that their difficulties will automatically work out? Explain.
9. What advice would you give to someone who was just about to marry?
“The Family as a School of Love”Questions for Reflection
1. What are the values most strongly stressed in your family?
2. Can you remember any events that made you realize the importance of these values?
3. Do you think that these values are similar to those of other families?
4. Which values do you consider most important?
5. How do you think things have changed compared to your parents’ and grandparents’ childhoods?
6. What does your family like to do together?
7. What does your family quarrel about the most?
8. What are the four realms of heart?
9. How are these four realms of heart shown in your family?